Do you have something in your life from a long time ago, when someone said something to you that you have held onto way longer than you should?
Well, let me tell you about one of mine (I think most of us have many) and see if it helps you recognize what you may be carrying that needs to be let go — no matter how big or small.
Years and years ago, my mom agreed to take me to her hairstylist to get my hair cut and colored. I was in high school and I wanted blond highlights. Walking into a salon I always enjoyed seeing it filled with ladies being pampered. The chitter-chatter of what seemed like a room full of friends catching up while their hair was cut and nails were polished. You walk in feeling like you’ll just get a touch-up and walk out feeling brand new. The touch of the stylist combined with the heaters running always sent me into a deep relaxation that at times even put me to sleep. So, salon day arrived and I even put on my brand new yellow shirt to wear for the occasion.
My only request of the stylist was to “please do not cut off so much that my hair no longer touches my shoulders”. He turned my back to the mirror and worked on a new style and the blond highlights I wanted. He was very excited for the reveal and turned my chair around and declared success!
I’ll never forget the feeling at that moment.
He had cut my hair off into what could best be described as a short bob. Definitely above the shoulders. He was very proud. I said nothing of being upset. I don’t even know what I would have said because you can’t glue hair back on. Even my mom had no idea how upset I was.
We were leaving the salon, I was faking my excitement to be kind and then he made the comment that I have held onto ever since. “You are a gorgeous girl, but never wear yellow. It is an awful color for you.”
That one comment led to 35 YEARS of refusing to buy any yellow clothing. I realize just how absurd that is now. Why on earth did I let one person determine my path? People always have opinions. That is all they are unless you give them validity. It is time to put down the baggage of other people’s crap.
Think about what you are holding onto and the impact it is having on your life. What role is it playing? Positive or negative?
So, sorry to do this to you but, my advice…Let it go! (You know you sang it.)
For me, I was missing out on some great clothes.